If the church is going to talk about sex we first need to know what we are talking about.
After our 2020 Crazy Sexy Advent program at Saint David’s ( I will tell you all about that later), we had some really wonderful follow-up conversations and one of the things we realized was that it is more complicated than we first thought to define sex.
We wanted to come up with a definition that was not anatomically specific and made room for people of all orientations and desires. For the purposes of the conversations that we are having, I want to talk about consensual adult activities. There is definitely a place in the church to talk about coercion, abuse, and problem sexual behavior, but for the purposes of this project, I would like to separate those topics from a discussion of healthy, joy-filled sex lives of our own choosing.
The definition we came up with for sex at Saint David’s was:
Intimate pleasure and pleasure exchange.
I like this definition, it feels both spacious and specific.
What is your definition of sex and why?
Until next time
-Kerlin